As You Get Older, You Either Become Your Worst Self or Your Best Self

Aging is an inevitable journey we all embark upon (thankfully), and along this path, we encounter a myriad of experiences that shape and define us. The choices we make and the attitudes we adopt significantly influence the people we become. It's often said that as you get older, you either become your worst self or your best self, (or like your parents). I think everyone has had a vision of themselves in socks and sandals on the front lawn yelling to the neighborhood kids “Get off my lawn!” This dichotomy captures the essence of how our character evolves over time. 

The Path to Becoming Your Worst Self (DO NOT FOLLOW THIS PATH)

Becoming your worst self is a gradual process that stems from neglecting personal growth and allowing negative traits to dominate your life. Here are some common pitfalls:

1. Complacency: It’s easy to become set in our ways at any age (hello toddlers). This rigidity can lead to stagnation, preventing us from adapting to new circumstances and learning from fresh experiences.

2. Bitterness and Resentment: Life is full of challenges and disappointments. Holding onto grudges and harboring resentment can turn you into a cynical and bitter person, overshadowing the joy and positivity in your life. 

3. Isolation: Social connections are vital for our well-being. Allowing relationships to wither or failing to build new ones can lead to loneliness and a lack of support, fostering a negative outlook on life (ugh, remember Covid?)

4. Health Neglect: Ignoring physical and mental health can result in a decline in quality of life. Poor health can exacerbate feelings of frustration and helplessness, leading to a negative self-image.

The Path to Becoming Your Best Self (FOLLOW THIS PATH)

Conversely, becoming your best self involves a conscious effort to cultivate positive habits, attitudes, and relationships. Here’s how you can succeed on this path:

1. Continuous Learning and Growth: Embrace new challenges and seek knowledge. Whether it’s picking up a new hobby, furthering your education, or staying curious about the world, continuous growth keeps your mind sharp and your spirit youthful. It can be as simple as reading an article every day (here’s an idea, check out my Teresa Easler Presents All The Things email every other week). 

5. Practicing Gratitude: Focusing on the positive aspects of your life and expressing gratitude can transform your outlook. Gratitude fosters happiness and contentment, making you more resilient in the face of adversity. And remember, if you are holding any grudges, forgiveness isn’t about the other person, it’s about you and freeing yourself up from that burden.

2. Building and Maintaining Relationships: Strong social connections enhance emotional well-being. Some people maintain that making friends as an adult is hard, to this I say poppycock (see what I did there, inserting an old timey saying). Nurture your existing relationships and be open to forming new ones. Sharing your life with others enriches your experiences and provides a support system.

3. Prioritizing Health: Taking care of your physical and mental health is crucial. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and mindfulness practices like meditation can significantly improve your overall well-being.

4. Embracing Change: Life is dynamic, and embracing change can lead to new opportunities and personal growth. Flexibility and adaptability are key traits of those who thrive as they age.

Reflecting on Your Journey

As you navigate the complexities of aging, it’s important to regularly reflect on your journey instead of shaking your fists in the air at the state of today’s youth – don’t they know we walked to school every day, uphill, both ways?!? Self-awareness allows you to identify areas for improvement and celebrate your successes. Ask yourself:

• Am I growing as a person, or am I stuck in a rut?

• Do I approach life with a positive attitude, or am I weighed down by negativity?

• Are my relationships fulfilling and supportive?

• Am I taking care of my health and well-being?

The answers to these questions can guide you toward becoming your best self.

Conclusion

Aging is a natural part of life, and how we age is largely determined by our attitudes and actions. By choosing to embrace growth, gratitude, and positive relationships, you can become your best self. Conversely, neglecting these aspects can lead you down the path to becoming your worst self. The choice is yours, and it’s never too late to steer your life in the direction you desire. As you get older, strive to become the best version of yourself, embracing the wisdom and beauty that come with age because there is so much freedom in that, trust me, I know.