Are Your Conversations Aging Faster Than You Think?

I recently shared an article in our “All The Things” email that explored a surprising idea: our brains can age at a pace that doesn’t always match the rest of us. What stood out wasn’t simply the science—it was the reminder that our cognitive patterns quietly influence how we show up every day. The researchers noted that these subtle shifts in brain-health can shape decision-making, emotional regulation, and even the way we interpret the world around us.

That insight stayed with me. Because if our internal processing changes the way we think, it naturally changes the way we communicate. The gaps, assumptions, or misunderstandings we experience in conversations often start long before words are spoken.

So, using that article as a launch point, with this blog I will take you into a more practical space—how communication actually works in our daily interactions, and a few intentional ways we can strengthen it.

When we communicate well, we shorten the distance between intention and understanding. We build trust, and we reduce lost time. What follows are actionable tips—grounded in real conversations I’ve seen evolve—designed to help you connect more clearly, listen more deeply, and lead more effectively.

1. Replace Assumptions with Micro-Clarifications

In the brain-age article, the researchers emphasise how what we don’t see (latent cognitive decline) still affects everything else. Similarly, in communication, what’s unspoken often causes the breakdown.

Try this habit: 

•  Ask: “When you say X, what outcome are you expecting?”
•  Or: “Is your priority speed, detail, or alignment?”

These small questions‐before‐speaking help align intentions—and save time and misalignment later.

2. Anchor Emotions Without Overexplaining

Just as the article reminds us that ageing isn’t always obvious, emotional undercurrents in conversations aren’t always visible—and they matter.

Use this structure: 

•  Name a feeling (“I’m feeling stretched this week”)
•  Give one line of context (“so I may respond slower than usual”)
•  Move to a next step (“Let’s lock down the top priorities”)

It takes less space, retains authenticity, and keeps focus on what needs doing.

3. Adopt a 70/30 Listening Ratio

The brain-age research highlights how our brain structure evolves with how we live. In communication, how we listen matters just as much as how we speak.

Try this ratio: Spend ~70% of a conversation listening, and ~30% speaking.

When you lean into listening, you allow the other person’s brain to process, clarify, and contribute. It’s not silence—it’s strategic presence.

4. Use “Next Step Statements” to Close the Loop

In the article, authors suggest that identifying and acting on risk early makes a difference. In conversations, closing the loop makes a difference.

At the end of your conversation, do this: 

•  “Here’s what I’ll handle.”
•  “Here’s what you are responsible for.”
•  “Let’s reconnect when X happens.”

Simple. Clear. Prevents things slipping through the cracks.

5. Speak in Pictures, Not Paragraphs

The brain-age article speaks to visible structural changes in the brain that reflect underlying patterns. Metaphors and visuals help render abstract ideas concrete.

Example switch: 

Instead of “We need to streamline this process,” try: “Picture this workflow as a funnel—right now it’s clogged in the middle.”

That imagery invites understanding sooner.

6. Slow the Pace to Speed the Outcome

The research points to pace—how fast our brain declines—the slower we act now, the greater our future benefit. In communication, pausing before responding is equally powerful.

Try this: Take a 10-second pause before you answer, draft, or react.

That small delay often prevents a longer repair later.

A Thought to Carry Forward

The brain-age article reminds us that unseen factors shape what we experience. In communication, the same is true—what’s unsaid, unasked, or misinterpreted often drives our outcome.

Better communication isn’t about being flashy. It’s about being intentional, being present, and being clear.

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You’ll build skills that strengthen every conversation—whether you’re leading a team, navigating change, or simply wanting to show up with more intention.

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